There are party games and video games and mind games, and then there are good, romp-in-the-bed sex games. These games inject some excitement into a relationship, and they are not as lazy as a simple game of “Truth or Dare” that you’ll inevitably quit after two rounds, because it’s boring. (Don’t get us started on “Never Have I Ever.” We’re not bonding in our freshman dorms at State anymore.) And keeping things fun in a relationship is pretty damn important, especially if your relationship is well past the honeymoon phase.
A 2016 study found that participants in long-term relationships of at least three years who enjoyed more orgasms, engaged in more oral sex, and experimented with more sex positions reported being highly satisfied with their sex lives. And wouldn’t you know it, a sex game is a tailor-made way to increase all three. “Almost half of satisfied and dissatisfied couples read sexual self-help books and magazine articles,” said the lead study author, “but what set sexually satisfied couples apart was that they actually tried some of the ideas.” Emphasis on actually trying.
So take this article and put it into action. Below, you’ll find a range of sex game options, some involving accessories and others just requiring your ingenuity. If it feels good for you and you partner, you’re on the right track. If it feels a little awkward at first, that’s A-okay, too. Practice makes perfect. So c’mon, team. Some assembly required.
Start slow with a couples trivia game.
Sometimes, the sexiest thing you can do is communicate with your partner. But communicating can be hard as hell when you’re unprompted, so this pack of cards with prompts comes in clutch. There are three levels: One that emphasizes conversation, one that’s flirty, and one that’ll have you and your partner daring each other to go bigger and bolder. From here, you can graduate into more advanced stuff.
Try a new sex position every day.
We all fall into ruts. That’s fine. So make a simple readjustment to how you’re having sex. And because it’s hard to imagine what you’ve never seen, a sex position guidebook is key. Think of it as an encyclopedia of rearranging your bodies—an academic text. There are enough positions in this one for 366 days of sex. Try to get all those days in a row. The challenge is the prize.
Set a new PR.
Goal-setting is an important factor in success. With this game, the goal is to do more sex, and better. That can mean trying more sex positions in one session than ever before. Having sex in more rooms of the house than ever before. Having more orgasms in one night or drawing out climax longer than ever before. Incorporating more sex toys into the scene than ever before. If you and your partner win, then congrats. If you lose, failing to set a PR, your punishment can be not having sex for two weeks, or something like that to build tension before your next shot at the title.
Get creative with a blindfold.
Blindfold your partner and play a guessing game. What kind of food are you feeding them? (Like that scene in Nine and a Half Weeks.) What are you touching them with? Where will you touch them next? Lelo sells a pleasure set with a feather teaser, blindfold, and couples’ massager if you want to go all out.
Get creative with two coins.
Bet your partner 50 cents that they can’t balance two quarters on their hands for 10 minutes. Their hands must be palms down on a table, each quarter resting on the back of a hand. Now, you have 10 minutes to do whatever it takes to upset those hands. You take it from here. And bonus, you could win 50 cents!
Buy a sex board game.
There are literally tens of sex games set up like board games, and board games are all the rage these days. Put Cataan aside for the night and give one a whirl. This version, called, involves cards, dice, and a board, giving your night a helpful assist from pre-made prompts and easy-to-follow rules.
Play sexy Jenga.
Buy a Jenga set if you don’t already own one. On each block, write a command. You decide what, but we suggest starting at “lick my ear” and working your way up from there. When you successfully remove a block from the tower, your partner must perform the command on you. Customize a punishment for if you knock the tower down—possibly picking up the next bar tab?
Turn a daily activity into a strip game.
Take your clothes off, piece by piece, while doing literally anything. Make commercial breaks during the football game more interesting. Turn a Succession drinking game into a Succession stripping game. Play strip poker. Just get naked, competitively.
Recreate an iconic movie sex scene.
Take your favorite movie sex scene. Study it. Here’s a list of truly insane scenes if you are coming up short. Now, reenact it—safely, please—with your partner. Then, realize how ridiculous movie sex scenes are and give actors credit, especially Tom Cruise. That guy basically set the standard for blockbuster movie sex scenes in the ’80s and ’90s. Expert level: Reenact porn.